Divorce Resources
Mom’s
House Dad’s House: Making Shared Custody Work by Isolina Ricci (Collier Books)
A
very useful book written for divorced and divorcing parents wanting to
make joint custody work well. The book details the principles of
two-home parenting, gives an overview of custody law, and then proceeds
to tell parents in much detail how to set up a joint custody
arrangement that maximizes time with both parents. The author presents
practical tips for facilitating communication between the parents, maps
out the course from separation to remarriage, details the mistakes to
avoid and describes the emotional changes that spouses go through when
they divorce. Tips are given for effectively negotiating the details of
divorce, from financial to child-issues, to writing up a parenting
agreement. Filled with self-surveys, checklists, and helpful hints,
this book is most useful for helping high functioning, cooperative
parents stay that way.
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Child
Custody: Building Parenting Agreements That Work by Mimi E. Lyster (Nolo Press)
This
practical book offers real world solutions to parenting issues. It is
appropriate for married and unmarried parents, for families with one or
more children, and for non-traditional families and families with
different cultural backgrounds. A valuable resource for
decision-making, this book provides a number of work sheets, which may
be used in developing a parenting agreement.
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The
Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart by
Constance Ahrons (Harper Perennial) 
The
Good Divorce counteracts the myths that divorce inevitably turns adults
into bitter enemies, results in damaged children and broken homes, and
rips apart the fabric of society. The book, written for divorcing
parents, focuses on what we can learn from families that divorce but
maintain family bonds and do well by their children.
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Joint Custody and Shared Parenting Edited by Jay Folberg (Guilford Press)
Child
development experts, therapists, court-connected mediators,
researchers, economists, and lawyers examine the questions and issues
presented by joint custody. The book provides crucial information for
parents to help them decide on parenting arrangements following marital
dissolution.
Healthy
Divorce by Craig Everett and Sandra Volgy Everett
This
book explores ways of confronting such difficult issues as how to tell
your children you are getting a divorce, how to plan a separation, and
how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, and abandonment. The
authors offer practical advice on using mediation as an alternative to
the adversarial court battle, co-parenting to maintain stability for
the children after the divorce, and organizing and structuring a happy
blended family. Filled with checklists and examples, this book offers a detailed plan for surviving the emotional difficulties
that are inevitable part of every divorce.
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Vicki
Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents by Vicki Lansky (Signet Books)
Drawing
on her own experience, that of other parents, and the expertise of
professionals, the author presents a step-by-step self-help guide
through all the stages of separation and divorce. The
author provides age-specific advice on the kinds of reactions to expect
from a child, what to do in response, and how to know when professional
intervention is needed. The book
details way to prepare the children for the day one parents moves out,
deals with alimony, support payments, custody, holidays, special
occasions, dating, sex and the single parent, as well as the language
of "divorce speak."
Between
Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce by Lois Gold
A
guide written for divorcing parents to improve communication and to
utilize the skills of effective negotiation and conflict resolution to
avoid costly legal battles. The book addresses legal, financial,
and emotional issues during and after the divorcing process.
Question
for Dad: A Very Cool Way to Communicate with Kids by Dwight Twilley (Charles E Tuttle Company, Inc.)
The
author, a rock music artist, wrote this most unique book as a way to
re-connect his estranged relationship with his daughter after the
marital break-up and a long distance between them.
The essence of the book is "The Dad's Question for Dion Test."
This
is a series of questions (in a variety of formats, including
true/false, multiple choice, fill-in, draw-in) that the author would
mail to his daughter, along with a self-addressed, stamped envelope,
which, over the course of several years, accumulated a wealth of
personal information about each other and cemented their very positive
and rich relationship. This book is very useful for long-distance fathers, full of helpful and practical suggestions and written
in an informal, personal and chatty style.
Families
Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting by Melinda Blau (Perigee Books)
Written
for divorcing parents, this book is based on the author's interviews
with divorced parents, family therapists, and psychologists. The book offers practical solutions that give parents a new model of post divorce
relationships. Structured
around ten principles of successful co-parenting, this book described
the tasks, attitudes, and communication skills that are required to
move the family through all the transitions and events that continue to
bring parents together in their children's lives. The
author urges parents to put aside their own conflicts and maintain
contact with the "other family" using creative
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